This week’s blog post is inspired by two of the most influential women that I’ve had the pleasure of being blessed to have in my life.
My Grandma (Beverly Carol) in the Blue and My Great-Grandma (Gladys) in the Stripes.
I’m going to start with my Great-Grandma.. Ms. Gladys, First Lady.. Wife of a Pastor. She was a soft spoken, humble, spiritual, firm, and a very fashionable woman.
My Great-Grandma owned what I thought were hundreds of Dresses, Suits, Handbags, Shoes, Coats, Silk Scarves, and Gloves. Her wardrobe was crazy but, her Wig and Jewelry Collections were insane! As young girls she allowed us to play dress up during our visits. We dressed up in her Fancy Hats, Pearls, White Gloves, and Cocktail Rings and felt oh so Fabulous!
Not only did I fall in love with fashion from watching her but, she was our personal etiquette coach. We learned to say “please” and “thank you”, as well as how to address our elders, and how to smile and be polite to everyone we encounter. I’m forever grateful as those lessons are embedded within me and help me to continue to be the polite and super approachable woman that I am today.
Also, I learned that Ms. Gladys was a Lady Boss of her time. She was a Business Woman. My Great-Grandpa Reverend Spann, passed away in the 1980’s. She continued to successfully run his church behind the scenes, working in unison with the new Pastor. She was an active member and very hands on in the women’s ministry, and was very Charitable. My Great-Grandma was a Classy Lady that lived to be almost 100 years old and still managed to wake up at 4 am every morning, Eat healthy, Sip Dandelion Tea, tend to her Yard and Garden, Exercise, Pray and Read the Bible, Paint her Nails, Moisturize, Beat her face (with Designer Makeup), and get dressed with no help daily.. well into her 90’s. Not to mention she still went to church EVERY Sunday. #realboss #goals
Now.. ❤ My Best friend, My Grandma Beverly Carol had the most incredible sense of humor. She loved to laugh and had a heart of gold.
She was everyone’s go to if they needed anything!
I love that my Grandma was a single woman who was comfortable in her skin and loved life. She was Fabulous and the definition of Boujee on a Budget. She was trendy but, had a Signature Style. She held a special place in her heart for Denim (Jackets, Jeans, Hats, Handbags, Sandals, and Sneakers) worn with a bright colorful Blouse and matching Ankle Socks. She rocked a Mini Afro that she dyed Auburn in her late 50’s and painted her nails Fire Engine Red every week… She was the Queen of the Home Manicure.
I can remember her treating herself to Fancy home-cooked dinners often. Dinners which consisted of Lobster tail’s and Shrimps, Filet Mignon, Porterhouse Steaks, Lamb Chops, Baked Potatoes, with Butter, Sour Cream, Rosemary or Chives, Asparagus, and always enjoyed with a chilled Glass of Wine.
Yep, she was definitely Fancy!
I loved how smart she was.. Always reading a book. She loved music mostly Luther Vandross, Whitney Houston, and Prince. She listened to almost every genre but, those were her favorites when I was a teen/young adult. She loved Action Movies and Thrillers and most of all loved a good family gathering.
My Grandma taught me to NEVER deprive myself of anything, always treat myself to whatever I want, and to work hard to get those things. She encouraged me to have compassion for others, be a good listener, exercise patience but, most of all laugh and enjoy myself.
As I’m growing older, I’m beginning to remember all of those life lessons that I received from the important women in my life who served as role models for my sisters and I. Our influence came mostly from our Mom, Grandma’s, and Aunties. I have 2 sisters and we each have 1 daughter. I am the eldest of my sisters and my daughter is the eldest of the cousins. We are the role models for these young ladies and will influence them and create their memories that will hopefully be fond and will mold them into the women that they will become in the future.